Best Man Speeches: How To´s and No No´s
So you’re going to a wedding and you have to make a speech, but you sure as hell know that you don’t want it to be a boring old speech like you know every one else’s is going to be like. You want people to remember your speech and rightly so. It doesn’t matter if you’re the father of the bride, the best man or just a friend wishing the lucky couple well, making a memorable speech and making people laugh will add something to their wedding day.
Funny and vulgar are two different things. A lot of people, especially men tend to think that to be funny you have to be vulgar and rude and embarrass the newly weds, this is not true. My brother recently had the honor of being best man at his best friends wedding and the night before the big day, I think he was more nervous then the groom. My brother has always been an out going guy, but when it came to making a best man speech, he just couldn’t think of what he wanted to say and he was nervous as heck having to stand up in front of all those guests and give a heart felt speech.
It’s been said that people fear public speaking more then any other one thing in life. In this article I’m going to give you a few tips I passed on to my brother that you can take and turn your speech into something memorable. With these tips, I assure you, you won’t embarrass yourself in front of the whole wedding party.
Tip 1: Stand up while speaking
Always, always stand up when giving a best man speech or a toast. Make sure you have the gatherings attention first before you speak, and the best way to do that is to stand up and wait for quiet. Standing up is the first rule of any good public speaking and a wedding is no different.
Tip 2: Plan what you want to say
Never try and wing the speech. Giving a best man speech needs to be planned and written down well in advance. My brother started working on giving his best man speech weeks in advance. Unless you are a really confident public speaker, this is the best way to make sure you say everything you wanted to say.
Tip 3: Practice pays off!
Practice your speech until you know it off by heart. There is nothing worse then giving a best man speech and having to look down at your notes constantly. Fidgeting with paper is a big no no.
Tip 4: Keep it clean
If you and the best man have known each other for a while and you’ve had some wild times together, this is not the time to air his dirty laundry. People think that giving a best man speech gives them the right to embarrass the groom and upset the bride, this is not the case. Don’t mention the trip to the strip joint or anything of that sort.
Tip 5: Keep it short
No one wants to be bored for hours with your speech. Make it short and to the point and don’t forget to add emotion when giving your best man speech. The wedding isn’t about you, it’s about the bride and groom, don’t forget that.
I hope these tips have given you some pointers on what to do when giving your best man speech. Good luck!
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Believe it or not what you say during a wedding speech can have an impact on the evening. If you get up there and deliver a heartfelt speech that is touching, the bride and groom will forever remember what you had to say. However, completely bombing the speech can have just as much an impact at the reception. For this reason, here are six things to avoid saying and doing in order to create a good wedding speech.
1. Profane language
It is vital you understand the audience you are talking to. More than likely there will be children in the crowd making it imperative you avoid using any profanity whatsoever. There are a number of ways to tell a good story without cursing or including adult language.
2. Inappropriate stories
Along with avoiding poor language, it is equally important you avoid telling any inappropriate stories. No good wedding speech has ever included talking about the bachelor party in detail or sharing a moment you spent at the strip club with the groom. Whether you intend on telling sentimental stories or funny stories, keep them clean.
3. Ex’s
The wedding is a day where it is all about the bride and groom. There is no room for ex’s to be brought up in the speech whatsoever. Regardless of whether it was an ex husband or wife or an ex boyfriend or girlfriend, avoid mentioning any names or stories that have to do with them. Every story and joke you tell should be about the bride, groom and your relationship with them.
4. Uncomfortable jokes
Including jokes throughout can be a terrific way to create a good wedding speech. It keeps the mood light and the speech entertaining. Just make sure if you are going to poke fun at the bride or groom it does not embarrass them too much. This is their day to shine and the last thing they need is to deal with an inappropriate joke.
5. Chew gum or eat during
When presenting your speech, you want to speak as clearly as possible. It is natural to be nervous and even stutter or mess a word up here and there. However, there is no excuse for chewing gum or having a mouthful of cake during your speech. Stand up straight, take a deep breath, and speak as clearly as possible.
6. Drink too much
The last thing you must avoid in order to present a good wedding speech is drinking too much. Almost every wedding has loads of alcohol to take advantage of, but keep it for after your speech. If a glass of wine will help ease the nerves, go ahead. But keep the drinking to no more than two glasses.
Everyone has to acknowledge that beating public speaking nerves can make a big improvement for the success of a wedding speech. In addition, obtaining the appropriate coaching or perhaps absorbing some of the public speaking tips and advice available via the internet can help you achieve this. All the best with the blog its certainly a fantastic source of information.
i remember when i was still in high school, i always fear public speaking engagments.:..